The Disguises of the Frozen Self , Love as Mirror , Therapy as Reparenting Ground. Arrested development  is what happens when emotional growth is stalled at the point of trauma or neglect. The body keeps growing, the intellect keeps evolving, but part of the psyche, often the part that needed attunement, safety, or permission to exist, freezes in time. It's not immaturity; it's a survival adaptation. Now, when that frozen part shows up in relationships, it tends to do so wear

Not all temptations come wrapped in darkness. Some arrive dressed as our highest virtues.

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I have noticed an unhealthy trend going around, especially in the New Age Movement. Anger is perceived as a bad thing. It is labelled as a "negative feeling that must be avoided" or having "lover vibrations". I believe this thinking to be untrue. Like with all feelings, they communicate important messages to us. We all have boundaries that we all like to have respected: physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual. And if we are lucky, we have grown up having the freedom

Psychological projection is a common behaviour that can have a significant impact on our thoughts and behaviours. When we project our pain onto others, we may be trying to avoid facing our issues, which can keep us stuck in a repetitive cycle of blame and denial. For example, imagine a couple arguing about household chores. Sarah accuses Tom of being lazy and not doing anything around the house, even though he just finished cleaning the kitchen and doing laundry. Sarah may be

Time and time again, I've come across clients and friends who say,, "How do I get rid of my ego?" or "This is your Ego speaking ". This is especially common in spiritual circles. It is important to know that you can't get rid of your Ego, but you can work on having a Healthy Ego. Getting rid of your Ego would mean being like an empty shell, unable to say yes or no, unable to think, and unable to do anything. Imagine your personality breaking down and not functioning. That wo

When a counsellor says they take a spiritual approach to psychotherapy, it often needs further explanation as the word ‘spiritual’ may have different connotations for yourself and others.Let me begin by saying what spiritual psychotherapy is not. It is not religious. For me, there is a difference between religious – which I perceive as being based on a particular faith – and spiritual. Religious people may be spiritual, but spiritual people are not necessarily religious in te

What a shame! Even with the best intentions, we fall short, and feel shame. For example, I’d had a very busy week. Come Saturday...